Some Men/Women Never Grow Up

Have you ever heard the saying that some people never grow up? I have and I believe that saying, too. While some people think that some folks just stay young and naive because of the pressures of a grown up world, I believe there is something genetic about this issue – but I cannot prove it. Personally, I think I have matured alright, but down deep inside I love the think like and sometimes act like a young man instead of a mature almost 50 year old.

There is another issue that I would like to express here and that revolves around the fact that most people never change. In a strange way, our brains are wired to keep doing the same behavior over and over again while at the same time expecting a different result. Everyone has known a person that has these attributes and they have watched in amazement as people continue to make mistakes over and over again because they refuse to change their behavior.

The ability to learn from ones mistakes and make lifestyle changes to stop bad behavior may not be as easy for some people as it is for others. That is the area of human behavior that I believe revolves around genetic development. For me, change is one of the hardest things to ever master in life, but I do understand that if I have certain personality traits that are self destructive, I must change in order to survive and to be happy. I do not believe that all people view this issue in the same way and that is why they continue to make bad choices that always bring them back to a messed up life and a feeling of being out-of-control.

As children, we are all a blank slate when it come to experiences in life. Even in our first few years of life, we must challenge authority in order to learn valuable lessons to be used later on. All children were told by their parents not to touch a hot stove, but most children touched it anyway because of this internal need to rebel against authority. At some point in life, most people understand that the people in authority are just trying to help us to not get hurt and slowly they begin to mold into the mainstream of life.

However, there are always the few among us that never accept authority as trying to help and the rebellion inside of these people continues for the rest of their life. This genetic trait is the same one that causes adults to keep doing the same bad behavior over and over again and expecting a different result. There are smart people that are doing research into this area of the brain and I look forward to reading about their research at some future date. Until then, I will just accept that some people will never change for the better and I will also try and stay as far away from them as possible because I prefer a happy consistent life, rather than one filled with never ending disappointment due to an inability of the brain to adjust in order to correct bad behavior.